Stress often gives rise to strong
emotions. During the fight-flight reaction in the face of danger or
crisis, there is a rush of emotions and feelings pulsing through the
body - fear, anger, rage, anxiety, etc. By acting on the wave of
emotional energy, passes through us and gets out of our system. We can
also deny our feelings and repress them, in which case the energy gets
locked in the body-mind-spirit and can manifest later as a migraine,
stomach ache, tight jaw, stiff shoulder muscles, or passive-aggressive
behaviour. A third way to handle the anger is to acknowledge it and then
do something that will release the wave of energy.
The following exercise releases and balances
the energy of strong emotions:
Hold each finger for a few minutes,
wrapping the opposite hand around the finger. You can do this seated
quietly or during the day when you may find yourself experiencing strong
emotions. This exercise is effective at night in bed to clear the energy
of the day, so that you can sleep soundly. Or use in the morning to
start the day clear and centred. The finger holds do not change the
situation or the reality. However you are centred, not controlled by
emotion, and are able to make clear decisions.
Finger Holds to Balance Emotional Energy
You may do the finger holds with
either hand. The theory behind the practice is that through each finger
runs a channel or meridian of energy connected with the different organs
of the body. By holding each finger you are able to drain and balance
the energy flow. As you hold a finger, usually within a minute or two
you will feel an energy pulse or throbbing sensation. This indicates
that the energy is flowing and balanced, and usually the strong feeling
or emotion passes. Many of these finger holds are done naturally without
consciousness. Begin to be aware of how you hold your hands and fingers
at different times, and how this may relate to your feelings. It is
fascinating to observe this in children and adults when they are
fearful, anxious, or angry.
The Thumb is for anxiety and
nervousness. The thumb can help to discharge unnecessary worry and
anxiety, saving energy for action. Breathe deeply holding the Thumb.
Exhale, letting go of all worry and anxiety. Inhale a deep sense of
peace and security in the midst of life's problems, knowing that you are
held and cared for in spirit.
The Index Finger is for fear. With
traumatic stress a person may continually feel fear or panic in their
body-mind-spirit. Use of the index finger is a good way to learn how to
work with fear, rather than be a victim in the grip of fear. While
holding the index finger, exhale and let go of fear, and inhale courage
and strength of being.
The Middle Finger is for anger and
rage. Anger is a natural and normal emotion in many situations. Anger
can result in violence toward others or ourselves. Acting with
non-violence means that we recognise the injustice and anger in a
situation, and we choose instead to act with justice and peace.
Repressed anger, or denial of our own depths of anger can result in
passive-aggressive behaviour or in many physical symptoms in the body,
including arthritis, ulcers, migraines, and knots in the shoulder
muscles or other parts of the body. Hold the Middle Finger, exhale and
let go of all anger and rage, inhaling compassion, energy, and passion
into your being.
The Ring Finger is for tears,
grief, and emotional pain. The finger hold does not repress tears or
sorrow, but allows the energy to move through you until you feel calm.
Hold the ring finger, breathe deeply and exhale all the grief and sorrow
you feel. Breathe in deeply to fill yourself with peace and comfort.
Hold until you feel a pulsation of energy.
The Small Finger is for self-esteem
when feeling like a victim of circumstances. In these situations we
often try too hard, or pretend to be what we're not. Holding the small
finger is a way to take control of feelings of unworthiness and low
self-esteem. To let go of being a victim, it is important first to
recognize what one gets out of being a victim - attention, pity, others
concern. Hold the Small Finger, breathe deeply, exhaling and letting go
of insecurity and unworthiness. Breathe in gratitude and appreciation
for the gift of life.